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January 29, 2014

Bucket list.

Everybody has a criteria in finding their plus one. It's an invisible (or visible if you care to literary write it) set of "prerequisites" of what your future and ideal partner will, must, or should have. From the physical things such as how he/she looks like, the job, the height/weight, to those that is more abstract like the personality, behavior, how he/she respond to your jokes, even... We always have those check lists that can pop out at anytime and is ready to be used to measure how legible he/she to be your partner.

Sometimes you can just skim through all of the list of people you can get and still can not find the perfect one that can make you tick the whole little boxes in your list. Sometimes you decide to do it the passive way: not searching for one but fiercely observe and judge when a new potential one steps in. Sometimes after a long and tiring piles of "rejected" candidates, you decide to lower your standard a bit, letting those who can fill at least most of the boxes as your plus one. Then as the time goes by and the loneliness goes strong, the standard goes lower and lower 'till you realize that you are searching for practically ANYONE and got either disappointed by the not-so-mr/ms-right or by the fact that no one is actually standing on the line any longer.

The thing is, you don't really need a list. From that bucketful of wishes and dreams of how your god and goddess will look like, pick one of the most important one, the one that you will never tolerate if he/she doesn't have it in them when you want them to be the one. Then the rest of the list shall be those you can either compensate or discuss with him/her once you decide to take things more seriously.

Relationship is not just about two people so perfectly match meet and effortlessly unite. It's about trying to mix and match both of your perspectives and accepting or discussing what is different for a greater good. It's not about slowly lowering your standard and being those people who will let anyone in, or becoming those people that are drowned in their loneliness as their pride pull them in. It's about deciding what's important and accepting what's different.

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